Why we use unhappiness
In this talk, Bruce Di Marsico introduces how we use unhappiness to stay in touch with our wanting. Staying in touch with our wanting is more important to us than getting what we want, because it is our only hope of eventually getting what we want.
He discusses how, when we do not get what we want, we may be tempted to give up wanting, and our unhappiness affirms to ourselves that we do, indeed, want what we want.
One foundational way of describing the belief behind unhappiness is “I will be unhappy unless I get what I want or avoid what I want to avoid”. Unhappiness does work to motivate us towards what we want, but brings problems with it.
Option Method – Why we use unhappiness