Frequently Asked Questions

Who created the Option Method?

Bruce Di Marsico created the Option Method in 1970. He taught many people from all walks of life for over 27 years. Since his death in 1995, his students and their students have continued to teach and share the Option Method with people worldwide.

How does the Option Method help people become happier?

The Option Method accomplishes this in several ways. First is Option’s attitude of love and the non-judgmental approach to exploring what exactly is making us unhappy. This attitude combined with the Option Method questions unravel the mystery and “cloud of confusion” that usually surrounds our emotional upsets. The Option Method helps you let go of those beliefs that are fueling your unhappiness.

How is the Option Method different from other kinds of self-help methods or therapies?

The most basic difference between Option and other self-help methods is the understanding that we are our own best experts. We each have our own, individual, specific, reasons for being unhappy. The Option Method Questions are designed to help us identify those reasons. Unlike other modalities, the Option Method does not require you to rethink, memorize or adopt a new belief or thought pattern. The Option Method Questions present a painless process that allows you to simply let go of self-defeating beliefs. The profound yet simple Option Method Questions are unique to Option and were created by Bruce Di Marsico over thirty-six years ago.

What are the Option Method Questions and how are they used?

The Option Method Questions are:
What are you unhappy about? (identify)
What do you mean? (clarify)
Why are you unhappy about that? (indentify)
What do you mean? (clarify)
What are you afraid would happen or
What are you afraid it would mean if you were not unhappy about that?
Why do you believe it would mean that?

Bruce designed and created this Option Method Dialogue that reveals the beliefs behind our bad feelings and unhappiness. Through this dialogue process you will discover it is painless and easy to let go of the beliefs that cause your unhappiness. Schedule an Option Method Dialogue with Deborah Mendel or use her workbook “Be Happier Now - Your Roadmap to a Life of Joy & Happiness - the Option Method Workbook”.

Are there any books about the Option Method?

Yes. Books & CDs

What is the difference between the Option Process and the Option Method?

Bruce Di Marsico created what he called the Option Method some thirty years ago. Many of his students have shared the joy of what they learned from Bruce with others. One of these students was Barry Neil Kaufman. Mr. Kaufman has chosen to trademark and identify his work as the Option Process.

The Practitioners on this site are not currently affiliated with Mr. Kaufman’s work, nor are we up to date on his current teachings. We suggest if you would like further information about the Option Process that you contact him through www.option.org.

How can I learn how to use the Option Method to help others?

Deborah Mendel, Bruce’s widow, is offering personal training in the Option Method. Contact Deborah to learn more. Sharing the Option Method with others can be a joyful experience. The Option Method is very simple and has, in a sense, been passed on through Bruce’s students and his student’s students for over thirty-six years. All of them bring their own special talents and gifts to this simple yet profound tool.